Where do you weigh in?

Its funny how just a year ago I remember seeing a picture of a friend on mine that I hadn't seen in 3-4 years. I was in shock because she looked twice her size since I'd last seen her. She'd been in a serious relationship and gotten married to the guy which seemed to me was the reason for this massive weight gain. I couldn't understand :-\ How could someone let themselves go that much? How could a person that was thin as a stick become a full branch and seem totally unaware of it? It was beyond my comprehension how a sexy, stylish, single girl had turned into a married, auntie-like figure in the span of a few years.

I remember this incident so clearly because in life I have 2 fears: the fear of aging and the fear of getting fat. I spoke to everyone I knew and talked endlessly about this. It was afterall, my biggest fear and I never wanted to be that girl. I never wanted to settle down and become one of these women that just let their bodies go. I was smart and sophisticated ... a modern girl that doesn't place herself in the old mold. But just to be safe, I made everyone around me promise they would whack me into shape if I did indeed let myself go. All my friends laughed. The fattest I had ever been was not fat at all so no one really thought I'd ever be "fat". So they reassured me that if the impossible was to occur, they would warn me and keep me in check.

Yesterday, after months of settling down and years of irregular workouts that seem to get less frequent each week, I finally got on the scale. It was more just as a joke because my boyfriend really wanted to see how much weight he'd lost (don't I wish I had that problem). STUNNED AND SHOCKED, I couldn't believe what I saw. I was officially 9 pounds overweight. YES, you heard me right, OVERWEIGHT. Me .. Ms. I-am-so-scared-of-aging-and-getting-fat-I-am-never-going-to-be-like-those-girls, I am officially, medically, legally, technically FAT. And it all came without warning. All those friends who'd promised to warn me and my loved ones who'd assured me they'd keep me in check, they were nowhere to be found.

Ok, so maybe I chose to overlook the signs. Like for the past year, when my size 2 jeans just wouldn't fit right and my size 0's started to rip a lil in areas they shouldn't have. Or those love handles that make all my tops a lil more snug than I'd like. Or those jackets that I have a hard time closing the buttons of. Or the way my arms just don't slide through my shirt sleeves anymore. Perhaps those are some signs I chose to ignore but no friend, not even my own blood ever warned me about this all along. My boyfriend was probably too scared to ever even mention it to me but no one else even said a word? NOT ONE WORD .... to warn me and bring me back to reality about how FAT I've gotten.

I cannot tell you how hard and harsh this realization has been. Of course, as I should, I will do my best to fix this situation but for those of you who haven't quite gotten there yet, I wanted to warn you.

WARNING: You may someday get fat so keep the measurements and weight in check ; )

--Bulbuli =)

Much Resistance for Long Distance

As someone who has experienced being in one, I often wonder how long distance relationships are expected to work. Its hard enough making a relationship work when you are in the same city, why would you wanna put yourself through the tortures of a long distance one? I can see some benefits of being long distance: more independence, not enough time to get bored of each other, you can keep your own life without sacrificing and compromising everything that makes you YOU. But if you think all these are great factors, should you really even be in a relationship coz no person ready for a real relationship would ever want any of these things.

Then what draws people to get into long distance relns?? Of course all of us get bored of the "local" crowd and once we're done sifting thru the local stock, its only natural that we find greener pastures in farther spaces. And its cool if you're just trying to take things easy and go with the flow and enjoy some extraordinary person's company that just happens to live in another city. What gets me is when people try to start serious long distance relationships. Its one thing if the person you're in a serious relationship with moves away. I can see how you might wanna not give up something good due to circumstances once you've already involved yourself in a serious relationship. But why oh why would you wanna set yourself up for a weekly rollercoaster, a huge increment in your skymiles, a high rise in your phone bills, a constant on-the-go life which is to be maintained in both cities and a mountain of insecurities that is sure to be much more burdensome than the insecurities of a local relationship.

-- Bulbuli

Lost in Space

How often do you girls go through the "contemplation phase" where you analyze everything and anything about your life. Work, relationships, success, friendships, surroundings, goals, fitness, health, families ... pretty much anything that comes to your mind in the moment. Despite the hectic life and schedules ahead of me, I find myself searching for the answer to the question of the moment. I personally am highly content (always) with everything I have whether it be Relationships, Finances or Success, I feel like I am where I am at any point is by choice so usually there isn't a reason for dissatisfaction. Then why all the questions??? Why the contemplation???

--Bulbuli =)

Why buy the Pig???

I thought this was absolutely HILARIOUS:

"For all those men who say, 'Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?', here's an update for you: 'Its not worth buying an entire pig, just to get a little sausage.'"

HAHHAHHAHHAHA ... My first time hearing that. Pretty funny!!!

--Bulbuli =)

Soulmates

Its so great to hear about people in "love", when they meet their "soulmates", when they find the "one". You just know they're going to live happily ever after and have the perfect family and be perfectly content with their lives forever and forever .. I mean they're with their soulmates after all.

Whats even more amazing is when people have only dated for a few months and they seem to just KNOW that this person is the one for them. How do you know, so quickly, that this one person that you've known for ohhh some 3-4 months is the one for you? Its crazy to me when people start off their relationship knowing they're the ones, even get married after dating for a few months and realize less than a year down the road they weren't exactly on the same wavelength. Can you imagine the humiliation when you have to face your friends & family, the ones that had tried to convince you to take your time and not rush into things, and tell them that you will no longer be with this person that you had so certainly bragged about being your soulmate? That the one for you few months later became so NOT the one for you!

I have the most wonderful guy in the world. He is utterly caring, incredibly loving, soooo much fun to be with and I love spending every moment with him. Its not like we don't disagree or argue or fight but we love each other to death and always work through everything. He is the closest thing to a soulmate that I have ever known in my entire life and i definitely want him to be the "ONE" for me but I don't know that I could've gone around saying he's my soulmate the third month we were dating. Years later today, I feel like he's my bestest friend in the world and I love him like I have never loved anyone before but I think it would be years before I could truly realize that we're Soulmates. I can't imagine anyone else in my life but him but I think we would've truly earned the right to say we're the ONE for each other after we've proved each other through the toughest of times and stuck it out through thick and think and when he still loves me the same after I'm 8 1/2 months pregnant and when my monthly PMS is still bearable to him 10 years down the road and my food is still the best in the world and when our love grows more and more over the next 80 years.

--Bulbuli =)

Agree to Disagree

I never did understand the whole concept of Agreeing to disagree. In theory it makes sense. You can't make everyone else think the way you do so at times when both parties feel that they're right but happen to be on opposite ends of an arguement, well .. you have no choice but to agree to disagree in order to move on. How often does this work though? Especially when it comes to relationships. For me, even if I do agree to end an arguement by saying we're both right in our own ways, the fact that I still feel I am really right will never let me agree to the fact that the other person might also be right. I can't shake the thought off of the other person not agreeing with me. Coz in reality I still know that they disagree and have not understood my point. This is especially bothersome to me when it comes to my close friends or my boyfriend coz when we can't see eye-to-eye on something and we agree to disagree, in my mind, I still know that the other person is thinking I'm wrong and that their opinion is quite opposite of mine. How can 2 opposite viewpoints both be right?

--Bulbuli =)

Elevator Invaders

Is it just me or is it really annoying when someone sticks their hand or foot in the middle of a closing elevator door to hop on board at the very last second?? I mean it isn't bad enough that you had to wait 5 minutes for the elevator yourself to finally get in with 10 other sweaty, icky people. Then you press your floor's button only to see 6 other buttons below yours light up. You've barely come to terms with the fact that it'll take you 5 extra minutes to get to your floor when the Elevator Invader attacks. As the doors are about to shut close, they stick their hands in to pry it open, walk into an overly crowded elevator and press yet another button for a floor below you. Does anyone else find this as annoying or am I just PMSing??? There's gotta be a book on Elevator Etiquette somewhere that clearly forbids this kinda behavior!!

--Bulbuli =)