6. Stop trying to hold onto the past

Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.


I have to say, its very hard for me to let things go. I can forgive very easily but its very difficult for me to forget.  I definitely feel like I would feel so much lighter if I could do this.  Its easier said than done but I have to try and forget more if I'm going to make room for newer things in life.  Holding on to the past certainly makes it very hard to move on to your future. 

5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not

Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else.  Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you.  Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.


This is a tricky one. As a person, I am definitely who I want to be, no pretenses and no facades.  Have never wanted to be anyone else nor wished for anyone else's life. I really do LML (Love My Life), all of it, the good and the bad equally.  As far as the keeping up with the Joneses thing goes, its hard not to want to do better in life.  For the most part however, my goals in life always come from what I want to achieve in life and not from what everyone else is achieving.  Doesn't mean that I don't take inspiration from others in life.  Always good to see people do good in life and I am happy to see my friends and family do well.  It inspires me to keep going and reaching for bigger and better things in life : )

4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner

Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.  Yes, help others; but help yourself too.  If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.


This I feel I am somewhat guilty of.  Everything else always seems to take precedence over my own goals and I definitely need to do a better job at that this year.  Hence the decrease in social activities : ) Going to make atleast 3 things about myself a priority this year: Gym time, Quality time w the hubby & Creative time so my brain doesn't turn into mush! 

3. Stop lying to yourself

Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself.  Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves. 


Another thing I'm quite sure I do majority of the time. Can't think of instances where I may have lied to myself about the reality of a situation or person or thing.  If I'm ever going to improve anything about myself, I have to be honest and real about it.

2. Stop running from your problems

Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on.  No, it won’t be easy.  There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them.  We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems.  That’s not how we’re made.  In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall.  Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time.  This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.


This is something I'm proud to say I have honestly done most of my life for most of my problems.  In fact its quite hard for me to run away from my problems because until I resolve things, they haunt me constantly.  Life has definitely given me opportunities to deal with every sort of problem, lol, and I have survived it all : )  As they say, if didn't break you, it only made you stronger!!!!

1. Stop spending time with the wrong people

"Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.  You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.  Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth.  And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends."


This is soooo important.  You are who you surround yourself with and I have severely realized the importance of this in the past few months.  This world is full of dramatic, angry, selfish, self-centered, pessimistic people.  At times whether its out of pity or wanting to help them, I find myself trying to bring them to the other side but quickly realize that its hard to change a person.  Instead I end up stuck between them and the negative energy, not a place anyone needs to be.  So, Goodbye drama! Goodbye negativity! Goodbye wrong people!!!!  


I recently read somewhere that if people spent less time finding faults in others and more time fixing their own flaws, the world would be a much better place.  So I'd like to spend more time on making sure I do the right things and becoming a better person and fixing my own flaws : )

New Year .... New Outlook ... New Resolutions : )

Another year over! I am truly amazed at how fast time is passing.  I thought life is supposed to slow down as you get older?  In my case it feels like each year is quicker than the last. Hope everyone had a great start to the new year.  My first day of the year turned out to be slightly different that I would've liked but hopefully that won't be an indication of what to expect the rest of this year.  There is so much to look forward to and so much to be afraid of this year : )  Keep trying to mentally prepare myself for all that is coming my way. Wish me luck coz I could reeeeeally use it.

Every year, like most people, I make resolutions and every year, like most people, I fail to reach them :( Fitness, Family, Finance, Fun ... all the same stuff ... never the expected result.  This year I'm going to try something different.  My only but important resolution this year is to cut down on the endless socialization.  Too many people, too many obligations, too much wastage of time.  I'm going to try to make this year about quality over quantity in every aspect of life.

Came across an interesting article that completely inspired me and I'm going to let it help me in reaching my only resolution. 30 Things to Stop doing to yourself:  http://www.marcandangel.com/2011/12/11/30-things-to-stop-doing-to-yourself/  Over the next month, I'll try and go through each point and see how I can adapt that in my life. Soooo, WISH ME LUCK!!!!!