Quotes to Live By

So, I love.. love.. looooveeee.. googling and browsing wikipedia and reading pseudo-accurate info about anything and everything. So I was reading about something or the other and somehow stumbled upon the life and times of Zsa-Zsa gabor. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zsa_Zsa_Gabor
The biography was mildly interesting, but the quotes were infinitely amusing and Im posting them here. This one goes out to all my girls....


"To be loved is a strength. To love is a weakness."

"A man in love is incomplete until he is married. Then he is finished."

"I have never hated a man enough to give his diamonds back."

When asked how many husbands she'd had, Zsa Zsa replied: "You mean, other than my own?"

"To a smart girl men are no problem - they're the answer."

"Macho does not prove mucho."

"Husbands are like fires. They go out if unattended."

"I am a marvelous housekeeper. Every time I leave a man I keep his house."

"Getting divorced just because you don't love a man is almost as silly as getting married just because you do."

"Conrad Hilton was very generous to me in the divorce settlement. He gave me 5,000 Gideon Bibles."

"A girl must marry for love, and keep on marrying until she finds it."

Boyfriends are fattening.

I'm sure most of you have noticed that people in relationships tend to loose track of their appearances. They pay less attention to the way they dress, barely ever work out and rarely care about the way they look. I have a friend who recently went through a breakup and started working out 5 times a week to get over the painful aftermath. It actually made her look 10 times better somehow. Not only did she look great coz she had lost weight and shaped up nicely, but she seemed more confident which also added to her appeal. I never even noticed how attractive she was until post breakup. I'm sure her ex-boyfriend's drooooooling all over her now which got me thinking, why is it that people let things get to that point before they start doing something about it? I mean these days, its hard enough making a relationship work in general. With divorce rates higher than ever, even marriage doesn't ensure an eternal bond. Don't you think people should put more of an effort while IN a relationship to make sure you don't loose the interest of this amazing person you have taken years to find and bond with?

For me personally, its extremely important that my boyfriend find me super attractive. I love dressing up for him, looking good so he can compliment me all night long, putting that effort in so he can appreciate what he's got. Given that most men have wandering eyes regardless of what you do but I still feel its important to put that effort in making him LOVE the way I look so there's less of a chance of him looking elsewhere. I think its so important that people not take each other for granted.I think that is the beginning of the demise of any relationship. Attraction is what brings people together and I think it plays a crucial role in keeping them together long term. OF COURSE everything else has got to be right. LOVE is even more important and eventually the main reason you stay with someone but I think these days, the self-centered world that we're in mandates every bit of effort you can put in to make your relationship STRONG and LAST LONG.


--Bulbuli =)

DVR!!!!

I LOVE WATCHING TV. It has always been one of my favorite things to do. I could literally watch TV 48 hrs in a row if I just had an abundance of snacks & drinks.

For the longest time I had stopped watching as much, especially shows that required me to watch regularly at specific times and specific days. As life progressed, schedules got busier and time was moving at the speed of light for me. Maybe I had just gotten slower with age or I had just found more things to do making it RARE for me to be home in the evenings to be able to watch my favorite shows. Whatever the case, I had lost touch with the most popular shows. I couldn't understand the big hoopla about The OC or why everyone was crazy about the Desperate Housewives.

6 months ago I joined the rest of the nation and got a DVR (some of u might know it as TIVO). I can't believe I didn't do this earlier. I NEVER HAVE TO MISS A SHOW AGAIN (except for when I forget to record it or am past my allotted storage space). OC to SoBe, Gilmore Girls to Desperate Housewives, Project Runway to Top Chef, Deal or No Deal to The Apprentice, Family Guy to Simpsons, movies, game shows, primetime ... its all at my fingertips and it takes me almost half (ok maybe 3/4's) the time to watch them since I can FF through all the ad's.
I would recommend that everyone in this WORLD get a DVR!!! The is a must have accessory for everyone!!!!!

--Bulbuli =)

Compliment or CC???

I am THE WORST at recieving compliments. For the most part I feel like people just say things for the sake of saying them without really meaning most of it. Just like I can't be fake, I can't sing untrue praises. When I tell someone something, I really mean it ... well ... maybe not to the extent my words might imply but there's always truth to my laudation. But do most people do that???

When I'd get off stage after my bollywood dance performances and people would tell me how mine was THE BEST act or I was THE BEST dancer, I couldn't help but feel elated for the longest time. One day I overheard someone using the same words they had used to describe my performance for another girl. Now this wouldn't have been as hurtful had I not seen this girl's dance and noticed how terribly choreographed & performed her act was. I'm not claiming to be the best dancer on earth, nor am I saying that I am an expert in any way but if hers was THE BEST DANCE then was mine even better than THE BEST or was mine just as BAD? I'd rather not even think about it but at this point it was clear to me that all this adulation was not to be taken too seriously.

As most girls, I've experienced the relentless flattery from guys trying to "talk" to me. You are SO BEAUTIFUL, you are the HOTTEST girl I ever met, you have the SEXIEST body in the world, you are the FUNNEST person to hang out with, etc. I all sounds so sweet and flattering. I mean what girl doesn't want to be admired ... to be put on a pedastal ... to be glorified publicly. But when you see the same guy use the same lines on your friend the next time or maybe even the same night, you can't help but become immune to such blandishments.

This is not to say that I should ignore all compliments and be cynical about people's words. This is just to prevent myself from letting my ego inflate beyond capacity, and to take another look at the value these compliments hold in my self-assessment. Basically just so hopefully I can stay grounded and keep my ego in check ; )

--Bulbuli =)

Fakin' It

I am a very straight-forward person. WYSIWYG. What You See Is What You Get!!! I understand the concept behind diplomacy and burning bridges but I feel that there is a line you MUST NOT cross or allow others to cross when it comes to social interactions and being "politely fake". If you try to battle out every issue you have with every person in your life, you'd live a very short and miserable life. Short coz you'd die earlier from all the arguements, stress and tension. But shouldn't there be some truth to your relationships with everyone around you? Is it that bad to express how you might feel about your friend's or family's words or actions?

NOT speaking your mind ALL THE TIME is a GREAT idea and I have learned that over the years. With age comes maturity (yes .. i'm a bit more mature now). Not EVERYTHING must be said and often times you think you know what you're saying and you think you mean to say what you're saying but more likely than not your emotions get the best of you and you end up saying things you regret later. So I guess I'm saying, its good to hold back sometimes.

What I don't get is how people ignore issues that bother them and act like best of friends or closest of families and pretend like everything's perfect? I can NEVER do that. I wish I could, especially when I really just don't care about the other person enough and would rather not show my emotions. Instead, it shows through me as clearly as anything through glass. Whether i'm mad or sad ... I can't be "normal" with the other person until my emotions are taken care of. So often, I end up being confrontational or confronted coz the other person knows CLEARLY that something is amiss. For me personally, I'd rather just Talk things out, Deal with the issue at hand, Let the other person know how I feel and Resolve things or Agree to Disagree.

I know that all sounds GREAT and it usually works out well too EXCEPT if you have to Agree to Disagree coz in that case not only has the issue NOT been resolved, things are out in the open and thoughts that you don't agree with have been shared. It just leaves both parties frustrated and the issue unresolved. I'd still rather be somewhat real than completely fake. Wouldn't you?

--Bulbuli =)

What is Compromise?

Chatting with a friend about her relationship today got me thinking about something that all of us have or will ponder upon at some point in our lives. Whether its someone who's dating, or in a serious relationship, engaged, or married .... we know that attraction is usually what brings 2 people together .. but what is it that keeps them together?

It is often said there are 4 important elements that act as glue in a relationship and help keep it happy & healthy: Love, Respect, Trust & Compromise. The first 3 are pretty self explanatory but one that I find hard to define is Compromise. What is compromise? Who is supposed to compromise? When are you supposed to compromise? What are the rules of compromise? What are the limits to compromising? Is it absolutely necessary to compromise?

I think compromise is when u accustom yourself to the other person's mess, (obviously the piles of your clothes lying around is not "mess", its your "stuff") and despite their mess you find your way to the bathroom, in the dark, dodging all their clothes/shoes/accessories/papers on the floor. Its when you listen to hip-hop even if its techno you prefer. Its when you eat Chinese even though its Thai you are craving. Its when you go get trashed even though it was a quiet night in you were looking forward to. Its when you become friends with people you had sworn never to hang out with. Its when you hold you anger in upon your partner's remarks that supersede your comments made in front of your friends & family.

The older you get, the harder it becomes to compromise. My mom always says, "Girls should be married off earlier because the older they get, the more stubborn they get". That is the case for boys as well, the only difference being that usually girls are the ones expected to compromise. It really is very hard for 2 mature adults to compromise, especially when they are used to doing things a certain way for 20-30 years. This is one thing I see many people struggle with in relationships. In today's world where everyone is really just looking out for themselves, compromise is one element that has become harder to balance in relationships.

In my opinion, compromise is about letting go of things in a relationship that you wouldn't let go of if u were single. Its about doing things you may not want to do but would mean a lot to the person you are with . Its about molding your life so it can blend better with ur significant other's. Its about changing your ways so you can adapt to ways that are not your own but would make the other person happy. Its about not worrying about the end result but doing your best to accomodate your partner.

I think if each person does their best to make the other happy in a relatioship, compromise would automatically happen.

..... if only this was as easy to do as it is to say :-/

--Bulbuli =)

How well do u know men?

I took a quiz about men today and thought it was pretty funny. Here's what my results were (and yes ... I laughed too but hopefully there's some truth to this)

"You Have Your PhD in Men!!! You understand men almost better than anyone.You accept that guys are very different, and you read signals well.Work what you know about men, and your relationships will be blissful."

Well I'm certainly glad I was able to get some kinda PhD in this lifetime. If you're curious to find out How Well You Understand Men, click on the link to take the quiz!!!

Feel free to share ur results if u'd like ; )

--Bulbuli =)