Ok .. I am pretty sure I'm not the only one that has a Gazillion Weddings to attend this year. I'll be on my fifth one this weekend and wedding season is nowhere near its end. Ever think about how much money and effort goes into planning these things?? And all for what?? A very dejaVuish experience. Honestly, how many weddings have you been to that you can truly say were "different". It all seems the same to me. The usual Sangeet night .. where these days Gujju's have started doing Bhangra and Punju's have started doing Raas. The usual wedding ceremony ... enormous and expensive mandaps with atleast 3 hours of a ceremony that no one really pays attention to but people spend months planning. The usual reception ... big, grand hotel ballrooms with elaborate decorations, loads of punjabi food and the ultra cool DJ that keeps you dancing to Desi tunes all night long ... well mostly till about midnight. Not to mention hundreds of guests .. most of them that neither the Bride nor the Groom knows.
Don't get me wrong .. I love weddings, especially coz I love dressing up. I hardly get to wear my Desi Gear so any chance that I do get, I'm all enthusiatic about deckin out. But how can you justify spending tens of thousands of dollars on weddings that really are more pain than gain, atleast from my perspective. I've seen the Desi Bridezillas. They spend MONTHS planning their big day .. hair, makeup, outfits, jewelery, mehndi, weightloss ... the list really is endless. I can only imagine how happy and excited they must be coz it really is the biggest day of their lives. The families spend years saving up for this day, and these days pray to God each day that their daughter will get married and not turn into a spinster. The groom who took forever to get ready for the big plunge to begin with and is now completely unprepared for all the chaos and drama that comes his way with the wedding planning. I rarely ever see Grooms as involved in wedding planning as the rest of the family. Why is that?? Anyway, I digress. So years of courtship (or atleast hopefully years of courtship) months of planning, tons of money and another cloned wedding ... really worth it all?? I wouldnt' know, I'm not married but I do know that for my weddding I want a "different" experience for myself and my guests ... guests that i WILL know ... events that WILL not be cloned ... memories that I WILL remember for a lifetime and never regret in retrospect.
WILL it really happen??? As always, I'm probably looking for something I am highly unlikely to attain but one can dream .. can't they? ; )
--Bulbuli =)
