I LOVE WATCHING TV. It has always been one of my favorite things to do. I could literally watch TV 48 hrs in a row if I just had an abundance of snacks & drinks.
For the longest time I had stopped watching as much, especially shows that required me to watch regularly at specific times and specific days. As life progressed, schedules got busier and time was moving at the speed of light for me. Maybe I had just gotten slower with age or I had just found more things to do making it RARE for me to be home in the evenings to be able to watch my favorite shows. Whatever the case, I had lost touch with the most popular shows. I couldn't understand the big hoopla about The OC or why everyone was crazy about the Desperate Housewives.6 months ago I joined the rest of the nation and got a DVR (some of u might know it as TIVO). I can't believe I didn't do this earlier. I NEVER HAVE TO MISS A SHOW AGAIN (except for when I forget to record it or am past my allotted storage space). OC to SoBe, Gilmore Girls to Desperate Housewives, Project Runway to Top Chef, Deal or No Deal to The Apprentice, Family Guy to Simpsons, movies, game shows, primetime ... its all at my fingertips and it takes me almost half (ok maybe 3/4's) the time to watch them since I can FF through all the ad's.
I would recommend that everyone in this WORLD get a DVR!!! The is a must have accessory for everyone!!!!!--Bulbuli =)
I am THE WORST at recieving compliments. For the most part I feel like people just say things for the sake of saying them without really meaning most of it. Just like I can't be fake, I can't sing untrue praises. When I tell someone something, I really mean it ... well ... maybe not to the extent my words might imply but there's always truth to my laudation. But do most people do that??? When I'd get off stage after my bollywood dance performances and people would tell me how mine was THE BEST act or I was THE BEST dancer, I couldn't help but feel elated for the longest time. One day I overheard someone using the same words they had used to describe my performance for another girl. Now this wouldn't have been as hurtful had I not seen this girl's dance and noticed how terribly choreographed & performed her act was. I'm not claiming to be the best dancer on earth, nor am I saying that I am an expert in any way but if hers was THE BEST DANCE then was mine even better than THE BEST or was mine just as BAD? I'd rather not even think about it but at this point it was clear to me that all this adulation was not to be taken too seriously.
As most girls, I've experienced the relentless flattery from guys trying to "talk" to me. You are SO BEAUTIFUL, you are the HOTTEST girl I ever met, you have the SEXIEST body in the world, you are the FUNNEST person to hang out with, etc. I all sounds so sweet and flattering. I mean what girl doesn't want to be admired ... to be put on a pedastal ... to be glorified publicly. But when you see the same guy use the same lines on your friend the next time or maybe even the same night, you can't help but become immune to such blandishments.
This is not to say that I should ignore all compliments and be cynical about people's words. This is just to prevent myself from letting my ego inflate beyond capacity, and to take another look at the value these compliments hold in my self-assessment. Basically just so hopefully I can stay grounded and keep my ego in check ; )
--Bulbuli =)
I am a very straight-forward person. WYSIWYG. What You See Is What You Get!!! I understand the concept behind diplomacy and burning bridges but I feel that there is a line you MUST NOT cross or allow others to cross when it comes to social interactions and being "politely fake". If you try to battle out every issue you have with every person in your life, you'd live a very short and miserable life. Short coz you'd die earlier from all the arguements, stress and tension. But shouldn't there be some truth to your relationships with everyone around you? Is it that bad to express how you might feel about your friend's or family's words or actions?
NOT speaking your mind ALL THE TIME is a GREAT idea and I have learned that over the years. With age comes maturity (yes .. i'm a bit more mature now). Not EVERYTHING must be said and often times you think you know what you're saying and you think you mean to say what you're saying but more likely than not your emotions get the best of you and you end up saying things you regret later. So I guess I'm saying, its good to hold back sometimes. What I don't get is how people ignore issues that bother them and act like best of friends or closest of families and pretend like everything's perfect? I can NEVER do that. I wish I could, especially when I really just don't care about the other person enough and would rather not show my emotions. Instead, it shows through me as clearly as anything through glass. Whether i'm mad or sad ... I can't be "normal" with the other person until my emotions are taken care of. So often, I end up being confrontational or confronted coz the other person knows CLEARLY that something is amiss. For me personally, I'd rather just Talk things out, Deal with the issue at hand, Let the other person know how I feel and Resolve things or Agree to Disagree.
I know that all sounds GREAT and it usually works out well too EXCEPT if you have to Agree to Disagree coz in that case not only has the issue NOT been resolved, things are out in the open and thoughts that you don't agree with have been shared. It just leaves both parties frustrated and the issue unresolved. I'd still rather be somewhat real than completely fake. Wouldn't you?
--Bulbuli =)
Chatting with a friend about her relationship today got me thinking about something that all of us have or will ponder upon at some point in our lives. Whether its someone who's dating, or in a serious relationship, engaged, or married .... we know that attraction is usually what brings 2 people together .. but what is it that keeps them together?
It is often said there are 4 important elements that act as glue in a relationship and help keep it happy & healthy: Love, Respect, Trust & Compromise. The first 3 are pretty self explanatory but one that I find hard to define is Compromise. What is compromise? Who is supposed to compromise? When are you supposed to compromise? What are the rules of compromise? What are the limits to compromising? Is it absolutely necessary to compromise?
I think compromise is when u accustom yourself to the other person's mess, (obviously the piles of your clothes lying around is not "mess", its your "stuff") and despite their mess you find your way to the bathroom, in the dark, dodging all their clothes/shoes/accessories/papers on the floor. Its when you listen to hip-hop even if its techno you prefer. Its when you eat Chinese even though its Thai you are craving. Its when you go get trashed even though it was a quiet night in you were looking forward to. Its when you become friends with people you had sworn never to hang out with. Its when you hold you anger in upon your partner's remarks that supersede your comments made in front of your friends & family.
The older you get, the harder it becomes to compromise. My mom always says, "Girls should be married off earlier because the older they get, the more stubborn they get". That is the case for boys as well, the only difference being that usually girls are the ones expected to compromise. It really is very hard for 2 mature adults to compromise, especially when they are used to doing things a certain way for 20-30 years. This is one thing I see many people struggle with in relationships. In today's world where everyone is really just looking out for themselves, compromise is one element that has become harder to balance in relationships.
In my opinion, compromise is about letting go of things in a relationship that you wouldn't let go of if u were single. Its about doing things you may not want to do but would mean a lot to the person you are with . Its about molding your life so it can blend better with ur significant other's. Its about changing your ways so you can adapt to ways that are not your own but would make the other person happy. Its about not worrying about the end result but doing your best to accomodate your partner. I think if each person does their best to make the other happy in a relatioship, compromise would automatically happen.
..... if only this was as easy to do as it is to say :-/
--Bulbuli =)
I took a quiz about men today and thought it was pretty funny. Here's what my results were (and yes ... I laughed too but hopefully there's some truth to this)
"You Have Your PhD in Men!!! You understand men almost better than anyone.You accept that guys are very different, and you read signals well.Work what you know about men, and your relationships will be blissful."
Well I'm certainly glad I was able to get some kinda PhD in this lifetime. If you're curious to find out How Well You Understand Men, click on the link to take the quiz!!!
Feel free to share ur results if u'd like ; )
--Bulbuli =)
Recently i've received a few emails about people's notions of what clubbing means to most desis. How every clubbing expereince is about getting wasted so u can deal w/ old drama and start new ones, about guys chasing after girls that would never give them a shot and girls running after guys that were never interested in them to begin with, about guys trying to prove their manhood by protecting their "property" (aka any girls that came with them or ones they saw first) and fighting any guy that comes even close to doing what they themselves would do to other girls in a heartbeat, about how repetitive and boring it gets but somehow no one can stop the vicious cycle. I'm sure this is an exaggerated version meant to humor people but there's gotta be some truth to the whole thing.
For me personally, clubbing has never been about that. When I was younger, I loved going clubbing coz I LOVED to dance and it was fun to dance the night away with my bf. We always went with our friends and had a great time. I didn't even drink much initially so alcohol was never really a big part of my clubbing experience until after i graduated from college and moved away from my bf to a different city and into a long distance relationship.
After that I'd go clubbing coz thats what most people seemed to wanna do and I was trying to make friends in a new city. It wasn't until I met Chulbuli that my clubbing experience took another turn. Both of us used to paint the town red, mind u this is not a big metropolitan city we're talking about. We used to live in a very suburaban area with a much more conservative lifestyle. We, however, took partying to a whole different level. We'd go out 3-4-5 days a week .. just the 2 of us. We rarely drank and yet had the BEST time ever. We were both so passionate about dancing and danced every night we were out getting unbelievable amounts of attention from guys (yes .. of course we loved it especially coz we'd never let any of the guys get close). We were the Prudes and Proud of it ; ) We created our own drama and mainly just laughed everything off coz really for us it was all about having fun and enjoying life to the fullest. And so we did. Chulbuli .. those were def some FUN YEARS we spent together.
After years and years of partying, my love and stamina for clubbing has certainly gone down and now that I don't drink at all my patience and tolerance have lowered significantly. For me it always was and is about the hours before that I spend picking an OUTFIT and GETTING READY, about meeting my FREINDS and HANGING OUT with them, about trying NEW VENUES and checking out the HOTTEST PLACES in town, about GOOD MUSIC and DANCING my ass off. I still LOVE going clubbing if the company, music and place are to my liking.
Over the years the alcohol consumption has gone up tremendously and I've definitely had some crazy nights out especially when we take our clubbing to another city or country. But overall .. its been a fun experience. The drama, the drinking, the dancing ... its all been worthwhile and something I wouldn't trade for anything.
--Bulbuli =)
People often thrive on female animosity. Girls just seem to NEVER get along. Guys drop everything at the slightest hint of a cat fight. Many wonder why is it that girls don't get along and I wanted to address that today.
If my bf does anything wrong related to a girl (denies contact w/ another girl he had no business contacting, lies about buying her a drink, blames her for dinners that he had with her, hooks up with her, calls one of his ex's, etc) I am the kinda person that would never blame the girl .. coz u see ... i don't really care what the girl did to cause any of it. She means nothing to me. I blame my bf .. simply because he's the one I care about and he's the one responsible to answer to me. His judgement along w/ his actions should've prevented anything that he's trying to get himself outta trouble for. What would blaming the girl ever get me? I am never going to discuss any of this with her and is it really her fault completely or even partially if my bf chooses to be/do things w/ her? So girls .. don't blame the girl ... BLAME YOUR GUY!
There's no doubt Indian girls are a great package. Brains, Beauty, Body, Style, Personality, Culture .. you name it and majority of us have majority of the goods. Some are great in some things .. others in .. well .. others. So why hate on a beautiful girl just coz she might get more attention or a successful one coz she might have more money? I consider myself to be averagely attractive. I don't have the best of bodies but its not bad. I think i'm fairly intelligent but not nerdy. I have a great job and make a decent amount of money. I love fashion and style and my culture and am a good balanced mix of the east and the west. The point I'm getting to with all this is that I don't bad mouth or demean other girls that might be more attractive or more intelligent or more fashionable or more whatever else than myself. I admire them for what they have especially if they got it themselves. I think more girls should be like that. Not every girl is your competition or enemy (some definitely are and some i really wish i never had to see but not all). So be good to other girls and instead of putting them down try to gain their positives and loose the negative attitude. Besides, being a good person in the end is good for you anyway :D Good Karma; )
--Bulbuli =)
