As someone who has experienced being in one, I often wonder how long distance relationships are expected to work. Its hard enough making a relationship work when you are in the same city, why would you wanna put yourself through the tortures of a long distance one? I can see some benefits of being long distance: more independence, not enough time to get bored of each other, you can keep your own life without sacrificing and compromising everything that makes you YOU. But if you think all these are great factors, should you really even be in a relationship coz no person ready for a real relationship would ever want any of these things.
Then what draws people to get into long distance relns?? Of course all of us get bored of the "local" crowd and once we're done sifting thru the local stock, its only natural that we find greener pastures in farther spaces. And its cool if you're just trying to take things easy and go with the flow and enjoy some extraordinary person's company that just happens to live in another city. What gets me is when people try to start serious long distance relationships. Its one thing if the person you're in a serious relationship with moves away. I can see how you might wanna not give up something good due to circumstances once you've already involved yourself in a serious relationship. But why oh why would you wanna set yourself up for a weekly rollercoaster, a huge increment in your skymiles, a high rise in your phone bills, a constant on-the-go life which is to be maintained in both cities and a mountain of insecurities that is sure to be much more burdensome than the insecurities of a local relationship.
-- Bulbuli
