The Season to Reason

No matter how much you think you can handle situations or be rational and logical pre-emptively or not let situations that are out of your control get to you, EMOTIONS ALWAYS GET THE BEST OF YOU. It is exactly those situations that you can't control that cause the most pain and are hardest to deal with. I always thought of myself as someone who could deal with anything. And for the most part I can. I can dettach myself from people and situations very easily. Mostly coz I never really let myself get attached to begin with.

People that don't fit into my life for one of many reasons, I make no room for. (Sound so ruthless and strong) Yet time and time again I find myself sulking over something that just seems impossible to get over. I keep trying to tell myself I am not an emotional person, I'm STRONG, I have seen enough in life to be able to deal with ANYTHING. Yet I find myself struggling with certain people or situations instead of just moving on as I should.

I guess when its not just you but there are other people involved, people that you love and care for and that matter the most to you, emotions start to hold more value and like it or not you can't just walk away. You can't just remove yourself from the situation or remove the people affecting you out of your life.

I know ... I shouldn't let it affect me, I should just learn from it and remember it for the future, I should just forget about it and move on, I should think of whats important and focus on that, I should just communicate and sort things out. I want to just do everything exactly opposite of that. So here I am, using this blog, to vent my feelings and reason with my emotions! I think I feel a little better already : )

--Bulbuli =)

To pay or Not to pay ... that is the question?

Dates these days are just so darn complicated. As if its not hard enough trying to get through the stressful experience, you got to worry about every little detail before, during and after each date. Take the bill for example. Gone are those good old days when girls just looked pretty and boys just paid. With women being smarter and richer and bolder these days, its hard to just expect the guys to pay. I mean most women still do! I think if you were to ask 10 women, atleast 8 would say they would expect the guy to pay. Whether thats fair or not, is a tough question to answer. On one hand there's the male ego that still exists in its fullest form, "How could I let a girl pay?". On the other hand there is the whole issue of equality, "Well if she wants to be treated fairly, I don't want to take away her right to pay!" Not to mention the fact that a date is just a date, no gurantee of anything. People go on hundreds of dates these days and that can get pretty expensive for anyone.

I think people should just pay based on who asked the other person on a date. If the girl is trying to pursue the guy, I don't see why she shouldn't just pay for the date. I mean its only polite to pay for things when you invite someone out. Same for the guys, if they ask a girl out, I think they should definitely pay for the date. If you think about it, this in the long run might prevent the players from asking too many girls out on a date. They just simply won't be able to afford it. Dontcha think ;)

--Bulbuli =)