Be happy for others

I read a blog recently that talked about how people find a secret satisfaction in seeing others fail, especially if those people happen to be your competitors. Whether its your friends or co-workers or family members, if they are comparable to you in any way and they do better than you at something it causes a person to feel jealous. I suppose its hard to watch someone else do better than you.

But does feeling good about other's failures not reflect on your own status? If you are happy with your life, would you really feel the need to be unhappy about other's good fortune or feel good about other's misfortune? How does that alter your own life? What difference does it really make to you? If someone else is dumber than you, it might make you feel smarter in the moment but in the long run it would only limit your intelligence. If someone else is poorer than you, it might make you feel rich in comparison but your actual wealth would not change. If someone else is uglier than you, you might feel prettier when you are around them but what happens when you are out among others?

I know its human nature to want the best for yourself, to have that slight competitive spirit, to want to do better than others and succeed in all your endeavors. There is nothing wrong with that but if you focus more on your personal goals & satisfaction versus gauging your success by constant comparison to others, wouldn't you come out happier? When I see my friends and family succeed, I'm genuinely happy for them. I feel proud of the fact that they are in my life. I love to be happy for other's happiness. Everyone deserves a little bliss and joy multiplies with people. I hope people can put aside their own agendas from time to time and enjoy the happiness in being happy for others :)

DON'T WORRY! BE HAPPY!

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Life has a strange way of working itself out!

Recently I went through an experience that I wish no one EVER has to go through. It was tough, very very tough. It was incredibly life altering, literally shook me up inside out. Life brings stuff your way sometimes that is not exactly what you ever imagined for yourself, even in your wildest dreams. This was one of those incidents, where I couldn't believe I was going through it. ME, little old ME? I didn't know where to go from there. I was so lost and confused and hurt and shocked, I didn't know how to move past it. I could barely understand it, let alone accept it. Why ME? How ME? Who? ..... ME?

It took me days to absorb it. Its taking me weeks to accept it, I'm not sure I've still fully accepted it. The funny thing is, in a really strange way, it turned out to be something that made me look at myself deeper than I had ever tried before. I paused, in my super fast-paced speedy life, I HAD to pause. I had to take another look at where I was headed. I had to rethink everything that I was doing and think about what I needed to prioritize.

People say "Everything happens for a reason". We've all been told that, several times, haven't we? Such a cliche' yet somehow so true. Whether we like it in the moment or not, where life takes us from the worst possible places is truly surprising. I mean, when you're at the lowest of lows there's only one way to go from there and that is UP. I was moving so fast and doing so much in life without really thinking about whether it was right for me or not. So this little incident of mine made me focus on things that I should've been focusing on to begin with. It halted my stride in the wrong direction and put me on the right path. It was at a high cost but you know what, in the end, it lead me to the right direction for my life and I can only hope that this would be a positively life changing event.

It really was so hard for me to cope with but in a weird way I'm glad I was pulled back and forced to reassess my life and fix what needed to be fixed. So next time you hear "Everything happens for a reason" try and let some time pass, re-evaluate your life and see what positive difference a negative event in your life can make :)

Judgement

It is so easy for us to judge people. When you're outside, looking in at someone, its so easy to say what they should or shouldn't be doing. If someone's immature or annoying or dillusional, we are so quick to judge and deliver our verdict on their behaviors. When that same judgement is made about us, its hard to accept. How could people misunderstand what you are doing or make conclusions about you without knowing the full story? But isn't that what we do to others? I admit, quite often I'm quick to judge and form my opinions about people based on just a few minutes spent with them. I have to remind myself that I don't know the person nor their life story or even their current circumstances to really be able to conclude my analysis of their personality. Nothing is ever as it seems. People are multidimensional. You can't just look at them under one light and assume thats how they are all the time. There is usually a rhyme and reason for everything and until you know the full story, you really should try to hold back. Just a small reminder to be kind and rewind your opinions of others that you were perhaps too quick to judge. And by you I really just mean me :)